The Real Issue? Fame, Fortune, Travel, Stardom, Success = Happiness

What if it’s all a lie.

How thick is the veil of illusion?

At a time when famous people who appear to have ‘everything’ commit suicide, the world stops. Or does it spin faster? The questions swirl around mental health issues. Why? How? What happened are the most common thoughts amidst the shock and awe of these talented and loved stars sudden extinction from the planet.

Kate Spade and Anthony Bordain were loved, by millions. Their success and their brilliant personalities were admired by so many. So what’s the underlying issue? Is it mental health issues? Do we even agree on how to define those words when used together? A chemical imbalance? How does this happen? Is it the Ego mind issues that keep us in the empty illusion of who we think we are or should be. How does that impact our hormones?

I believe the issue is quite simple. Not easy, per se, but simple. We all want to love and be loved. We contemplate ‘loves me, loves me not’ and our mood often fluctuates depending on the answer. But what if it all comes back to ‘love thyself’ first? What if we didn’t look for external validation in order to judge our own success or where others fit in?

My recent trip back to the USA brought the topic of drug addiction close to my heart. It was shocking to learn of family members who are struggling with their children hooked on drugs. Not one, not two, but more than that. All I can think is “I KNOW THESE PARENTS” and I know how big their hearts are and all the opportunities and love they have provided over the years. These are not abusive or neglecting parents. It’s actually quite the opposite. So WHY are we dealing with this? What is happening in large communities of people that is driving this behaviour of destruction?

For the younger generations we can blame it on popularity and perhaps an identity crisis trying to ‘find oneself’. Easy to think that perhaps the expecations of life is too stressful, the standards too high or a plethera of other things that youngsters experience as they become programmed for survival in this world. The pain and suffering is deep and at such a young age people are either destroying their life or eliminating it. We often think if only they could have finished the degree, secured a good job, knew their potential or realized how loved they are….things would be different. But would they?

How is it that the well established people who have achieved fame, fortune, global travel, stardom and built successful businesses choose an early exit plan? Aren’t many of us aspiring to their success and influence??? Shit, what does that mean when they eliminate themselves? It kind of shatters the idea that we are here to achieve something, doesn’t it?!

I believe the core of the issue always comes back to community, knowing love, feeling love and being love — unconditionally. Better known as self love. That deep inner glow that lets us know we are perfect and whole. A time and space where the light shines brightly through our selves for others to experience. When we experience this radient love within ourselves, we know that it is not something anyone can take away from us. So why is it so flippin’ hard to experience?


Re-progarmming our hearts and minds to reflect our souls purpose, not what we think the world wants us to be. Going inward where the light shines bright instead of letting someone outside dampen the glow.

What if we pursevered through life with the intention to love ourselves as deeply as we do others, especially lovers. What if our big loves were only here to help us feel that deep self love so that we know what it is. What if we knew that it wasn’t really coming from another but is a pilot light within ourselves. Always on, always home and constantly waiting for you to bask in its glow?

The world is an illusion. One that is here to show us what our minds are thinking, not who we are. The external world needs to be put in its place and watched like a movie theatre, not followed for fame and fortune. No one can value your worth more than yourself.

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